"The secret to success is to do the common things uncommonly well."

- John D. Rockefeller

If you want to be a “successful person” in life (to have "success"), then What you are, and have, should be reformed, reshaped, and newly established to attract success. Success is one of many Whats and all of them either attract or repel each other. Again, what's amazing about the relationship between two Whats is that they will always allow for either attraction or repulsion without emotion, similar to WHOs but not quite the same. Changing What you are can attract any other What, or repel them as well. Using the right bait, What you are, or What you have, can catch you - or shield you from - nearly everything. If you have enough Whats that align with success, then success will come to you, and if you capture it, then you will have that success as a new What to be added to your collection. I get the feeling that most of you are actually after What it is that success attracts, or brings to you, more than the success itself, but perhaps I'm wrong. Hmmmmmmmmm?

(Also, I now see that this is an excellent example of what I mean by Whats don't lead to emotion, but attracts or repels without them. Success doesn't feel any particular way about you, or What you have, but it will be attracted to your Whats nonetheless.)

One of the most beautiful pieces of using your key Whats in order to attract new ones is that it has a sort of “exponential factor” to it (Pareto Distribution). Imagine it like being an old tribesman, baiting in a wolf (a single What). You tame it and then send it out to herd for you. Let’s say it brings in 1 cat. Now, that’s a total of 2 Whats. Then these 2 animals bring back one new one each. This means that you now have:

1. A wolf

1. A cat

1. A sheep (caught by the wolf)

1. And a mouse (caught by the cat)

 

That’s 4 animals total, 4 Whats, and that’s with them each only bringing in 1 What at a time. Of course, with each What gained, the ability for what it can hunt becomes smaller. If it was caught by your last predator then it couldn't be as powerful as that last one now could it? Many times, if you look properly, you can find specific Whats that'll bring in tens of other Whats at a time. It's the ability to find and use those Whats effectively that leads to huge amounts of momentum and acceleration toward your dreams. Keep in mind, however, that certain Whats won't do the same types of hunting, or have the same types of attractive pull, as others. As such, the exponential growth can plateau and stop growing if you leave the Whats to hunt all on their own.

A pack of wolves, working in strategic shifts, as commanded by you, is far better than a single wolf, hunting all night, and then passing out for the next week. In short, like the wolves, you should ALWAYS be fighting to acquire new Whats to use in pursuit of attraction and keep them shuffling. Using the same What for too long makes it lose its attraction. They get tired, and won't be able to attract or repel forever. Those who can manage the usage and the recharging of attractive Whats can gain and keep, nearly anything.

People who have mastered this are often seen as mystical or genius because they seemed to have developed their success with the utmost ease, and out of nowhere. A person who obtains success without much action seems predestined to have done so, even though actions are just a single type of your Whats, but my main point in saying this is that attraction is often exponential. Even if you’re attracting something complex, like a form of success, a few simple Whats is all that it may take, so long as you have enough time and the self-discipline required to wait patiently while they're out hunting; both of which are Whats. Again, if it's yours, or if it's being had, then it's a What.

If your form of success is a feisty animal, that mouse you got in the above example will be doing nothing for you, unless you're willing to sacrifice it in the end (as bait). No matter what though, it won't be hunting for you. 

Some Whats will need for you to use them in a very specific way to attract something in, like a rabbit being used as bait. You can even use repulsion as a rather fascinating way to get good things to come to you - like getting a repellent outcast (Chapter 20) to do something you don't want a group of people doing. If a truly repellent person does it publicly, then most of the public won't do it ever. You can't just leave the Whats to hunt on their own, because eventually all you'll be left with is prey, and no hunters, or the hunters will be tired for a bit and need a rest. 

There’s a real beauty to the usage of Whats being exponential. To start with, if you had carefully chosen your Whats (Your plans, your actions, and how you analyze your results, for starters) to double your amount of successful Whats every year (quite the accomplishment, but not impossible). Well then, after just a few short years it’ll be near impossible to irreversibly fail in a single event. If your success doubled every year, and we treated it like money (every What is a resource, and I like to consider all of my resources as limited, for the sake of preparedness) if your success doubled every year, then after 16 years you’d have 65,536 dollars worth of success, because 2^16 = 65,536. Take that back to the second year, where there’d only be $4, because 2^2 = 4, and do you see what I mean? 

If failure cost you 1 dollar each, you’d need to spend 5 failure bills by the end of the second year in order to completely destroy the entire past's worth of success, but in the 16th year, you’d need to spend 65,537 dollar bills worth of failure to completely destroy anything. Of course, success in any specific subcategory or field is just a smaller piece of the overall tea cup. 

(Helpful tip: click here for a recap of the teacup metaphor) 

All teacups can be broken up in different ways, and so you can be after different things from someone else, in terms of specifics, but still both be after obtaining "success" overall. Keep in mind that most teacups don't break evenly, so you'll often have different amounts of "success currency" needed for each of the different types of things you're trying to accomplish or have.

Of course, you should also be reminded that teacups aren't whole either. This means that, though it will need far more Whats, and be much, MUCH harder to do... you could, hypothetically speaking, attract the whole cupboard towards yourself instead of one teacup at a time. Sometimes, you may (hypothetically speaking) attract all your desired types of success at once, by finding what category they all fall under. So long as you can identify What the cupboard is in its entirety, you should be able to attract it. This is very rare to happen on it’s own, but with enough mental foresight and planning, you can gather the proper Whats to accomplish this in a reliable and consistent way. This requires boat loads of practice and the time to gather each of magnets, but once you have them, gathering cupboards will be a piece of cake. Of course, seeing What something is, is very easy. It's knowing what attracts or repels that What, on the other hand, that makes things much more difficult. Do you know what makes all of this easier? Knowing the WHOs behind the Whats. Bada-bing, bada-boom.

This is not to say that you can’t lose your success easily under the correct circumstances. They either attract, or repel, and both can be done strongly. By having a lot more attractive Whats (Like a good personality, good looks, a sense of humor, and so much more) all at once, you can keep your success longer because you have more leashes tying it to you. If you have multiple predators guarding that gate, success is much less likely to sneak out and away from you. You can also keep your dreams by simply having an extremely strong What, like a T-Rex, to herd the other Whats that you already have. 

This can even be said of why Love helps keep a romantic relationship going strong. Being someone’s true love when your WHOs are so perfectly aligned is a great way to keep your fulfillment, and not just to obtain it. This is because, emotionally speaking, emotions are a What that is created by the combination of two WHOs, once brought together in the right way. In this case, it's a question of What amount of alignment you have between your WHOs. This is because... yes, the alignment between two WHOs IS also... a What, it's the act of aligning, as in "What action, are they doing together?". For this fact to be used, you should note that you can keep success much longer as well (in this case, a romantic success), by keeping track of how you align and relate with that success that you've earned. For example, do feel proud of your success, or ashamed? And why? Of course, this doesn't just apply to success either. This works for any What. Success is just a fun example.

This is one of the biggest reasons I see for relationship failure. It's relatively hard to even start a relationship, but keeping one seems to be very tricky business for most people as well. The reason behind that is that they haven't spent a good enough portion of their single lives looking for the correct Whats to keep a good, healthy relationship. Even if they had the strength to start a relationship, most people just jump right in, once that's been achieved. Big... BIIIIG mistake. If you go in with just enough wolves to get a partner attached and herded into you, what happens when the partner leaves? Chances are, some of those wolves will end up dead, or extremely weakened in the process, often due to newly formed self-doubts which are gonna repel even more good stuff back away from you. If the gatekeepers are lost in a battle with your ex as they make their way out, what's to stop your prizes from running off into the wilderness that they called home? Besides, the Whats that you start with probably won't be enough to hold them for the rest of your lives.

Like wolves, over time, Whats can often lose their strength if asked to function and stay awake for too long. To be clear, this is not always the case. It's just rare to find Whats that stays charged for your entire lifetime, and again, since you are both a unique WHO and a unique What, the specific type of Whats that’ll be most attracted and magnetized to you depends on your own traits, labels, and habits. Though Whats can be recharged if given enough time to rest in between, or even by using other particular Whats or WHOs, if you only have 4 wolves, and you make all of them guard the gate at once, instead of putting them on separate shifts to allow for breaks and sleep, they will grow weak and tired from having no leeway, and your other Whats will escape, as these wolves pass out from exhaustion. Even worse, when something is seen as the largest size of success, like true love, you will need the strength of at least 4 wolves at a time to keep it from running away when shit really hits the fan. In that case, you will still need shifts and a trade-in for your wolves to rest, but in order to do that, with the right number of them still at the gate for every hour of the day, you're going to need A LOT more wolves. How can you let those 4 needed wolves go on a break, if you don't have at least 4 wolf backups to take their place by the exit? Keeping a schedule of sorts as to when something is running low, and when it's running high in power is often very useful.

Starting a relationship, no matter how difficult it is to do, is actually, most often, the easiest part. You need to go about accumulating the right Whats to keep a good partner around BEFORE you get into something with someone. A bit more self-awareness might be good. I'm not saying that you have none, but most people don't stock up on it, and it's a pretty good What to have for keeping a relationship glued in tight. If you'd like to talk through what type of Whats you need... for a new What (lol), consider making an appointment with me. If not, the best I can suggest is to look at the people around you in life, who are in the situation you're after, and look to see what sort of Whats they have. In the case of this example, it'd probably mean talking with individuals in longstanding happy relationships.

"Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get."

- Dale Carnegie

Without hunting for the first wolf and strategically keeping everything you both capture, success will be VERY EASY to destroy. It’s not just the final product (the success) that you want to have with you. You also want the amount of wolves that is strong enough to keep it there, forever. This often means that you'll need to replace the wolves (the Whats) once their charge has lost its potency (on occasion). Wolves grow old and die. Whats can also suffer metaphorical death; instead of losing all of their remaining life, they simply lose all of their remaining meaning. After a time, even the best of wolves grow old. It's a very sad, but very true fact of life. They may outlive you, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t all die in the end.

Consider lottery winners. Most of them lose their money right away, and many of them end up in debt. Why? Because they only had 1 item that tied their form of success (wealth) to them, and they had many things that repelled it. The one thing that they did have to attract the wealth to them was a winning lottery ticket, and once it was used, they didn’t even have that anymore. What they did have was a gambling problem (Obviously, they were playing the lottery after all.), and I think you can see where this is going. Most of the people who have properly earned their money have almost certainly spent much more time accumulating - and collecting - good Whats for both attracting and keeping the wealth next to them.

Another easy way to fail is to overestimate the attraction of a What you have, or to underestimate the repellence of a What for failure. Consider honesty and lying. Honesty often only gives you $1, unless you're being honest in a situation where your partner knows that you don’t want to be. That usually gives you a good $10 minimum. 

I’m sorry. I digressed. My point is that while most honesty bills are 1’s, most lying bills cost you over $100. Now, if you’ve been with this person, or a group, for a long period of time without lying, chances are you have at least 100,000 dollars in the bank. Getting a bill for $100 is barely noticeable, but if you push it, and you lie when you only have $200, then you’ve just dragged your relationship down by half with 1 lie, after 200 truths. That’s most probably a few years back at least, and again, certain lies will cost a lot more on occasion, too!

There’s a good use of WHOs to be mentioned here. As stated in "Menu 1: Who Are You?, Chapter 2: Giving Without A Gift...", you can’t give what you don’t have, but by keeping a stronghold of good Whats for a long period of time, oftentimes, better things’ll come to you. So if you wait, and actually don’t give for a long time, you’ll be a much wealthier banker for people to take from, later on, when needed. If you wait 16 years, you can hand out 32,768 dollars of success without threat, because after a year you'd be right back to where you were before that generosity anyway (Good Whats double every year after all). However, if you only wait 2 years, 4 dollars of success, power, or whatever else you’ve been after, is all you have. You won’t have much to give. People who understand the very nature of their WHOs as a container know exactly how to stack their Whats as a way to keep them fresh and available for as long as they could possibly need, and so they can keep and give their Whats when they want, where they want, how they want, and to WHO they want.

This is not to give you an excuse for morality. If you don’t actually intend to give your Whats away, no matter how much time passes, you’re just being greedy and should be honest about it.

The third bit of info I’ll give you is that, since you can give all sorts of Whats, the successful Whats you pass on to your children when you’re old and gray (like money), can be a great short-term gift, but if you wish for them to be able to keep it, nurture it, and help it grow to an even higher success, then you should be giving them all the other Whats you’ve kept as well, like wisdom, and intellect, because if you don’t, that success won’t be staying with them for long. 

 

Because it simply has no reason to.

Work Cited

“Explaining the 80-20 Rule with the Pareto Distribution.” D, 15 Mar. 2022, dlab.berkeley.edu/news/explaining-80-20-rule-pareto-distribution. Accessed 30 Dec. 2024.