Let’s imagine that the very instant you were conceived, an EXACT clone was made at the EXACT same time, down to the smallest measurements of time. Let’s say that this clone has lived the exact same life as you, had the same relationships, with the same people, at the same time, and all while doing the exact same things as you 24/7.
In short, let’s imagine that whatever you are or did, they also were, and did as well. This means that they even had the same role as you in your romantic partner’s life. Every trait that you have, physical or otherwise, they have too, and everything that you’ve had, including experiences, they’ve had also. Heck! They even pee at the same time as you, every day.
Now then… if… one day… your clone was to ask you if they could have sex with your partner, as a sort of “fill-in replacement for you”… what would your answer be?
Give me a serious answer here.
Think about it.
If you said yes… well… damn. I didn’t know that you were into that sort of thing.
but if you said “No.”, then one question still remains: Why not? After all, What they are is equal to you in every way. According to most people, only Whats truly exist. Most people claim that What you are, IS WHO you are, and that there is no difference. But! If, like with your clone, if they are What you are, then they must be considered “you”, according to that philosophy. And if they’re “you”, and “you” are allowed to sleep with your partner, then what’s the problem with your clone sleeping with them as well? They're "you" after all, right? At least according to your measurements. So what's the problem? According to your measurements, “they” are “you”. You should be allowed to sleep with your partner if you want.
Its because Whats are not the problem. The problem that you're having is with a WHO.
The problem with pretending that WHOs don’t exist, and is everything must then be measured by Whats is that you’ll only be using half of reality to make your decisions. If you only use Whats for your measurements, you’ll end up making crazy, and stupid decisions in the long run, decisions that’ll end up hurting you emotionally, without you even realizing that it’s your fault.
because Whats are fantastic for logical fulfillment, but they SUCK at creating emotional ones. WHOs, on the other hand, are great for emotional fulfillment, but are very hard to apply to our more logical subjects. Both are measurements to assess the world by, and both are needed, in unison, to create a worthwhile life for you, and those you love.
