~ Who Defines You ~

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"What's in a name? That which we call a rose, by any other name, would smell as sweet."

- William Shakespeare

 

Before you can defend yourself against liars, you first need to know the truth. Before you can find the easy paths that will make you happy and satisfied, you need to know a very specific truth. Before you can tell if your dreams are really meant for “you”, you first need to know it, too. The most crucial truth for fighting towards independence is knowing WHO you are… and there’s no better way to prove that you know someone than to either love them or hate them, because…

 

“You cannot love/hate someone if you don’t know who they are”

 

Again, one last time: You cannot truly love someone whom you don’t know. You can only love the idea of them, and that is not the same thing - not in the slightest. I will be looking to prove this point, multiple times, in multiple chapters…

 

But let me start by asking this question:

 

Have YOU ever asked someone who they are? 

 

I want you to remember the last time you asked someone that question. Once you remember asking them, do one more thing for me: Tell me how they answered you. What did they say? Did they give you their name? Did they tell you what they do for a living? Their beliefs? What did they say? And one more thing:

 

Have you ever noticed that nothing they say actually answers your question?

 

In truth, our language doesn’t even have words to describe WHO we really are. It only has words for Whats. For the most part, this is okay.

 

• Why equals “What are the reasons?” or “What caused this?”
• How means, “What methods were used?” or “What’s the plan?”
• When is “What time?”
• Where is “What place?” 
• but WHO is much more difficult. 

 

There is no direct translation from WHO to What. People value different things as measurements of WHO you are, and certain situations call for different answers.

 

For example, if I asked you WHO you are right now, you might give me your name, your occupation, your religion, your standards, your code of honor; on and on and on. But those aren’t you. They’re yours. They’re What you have. Our capitalistic culture has become so obsessed with What we have that we’ve completely lost track of WHO we are.

 

Let’s imagine that the very instant you were conceived, an EXACT clone was made at the EXACT same time, down to the smallest measurements of time. Let’s say that this clone has lived the exact same life as you, had the same relationships, with the same people, at the same time, and all while doing the exact same things as you 24/7.

In short, let’s imagine that whatever you are or did, they also were, and did as well. This means that they even had the same role as you in your romantic partner’s life. Every trait that you have, physical or otherwise, they have too, and everything that you’ve had, including experiences, they’ve had also. Heck! They even pee at the same time as you, every day.

Now then… if… one day… your clone was to ask you if they could have sex with your partner, as a sort of “fill-in replacement for you”… what would your answer be?

Give me a serious answer here.

 

Think about it.

 

If you said yes… well… damn. I didn’t know that you were into that sort of thing.

But if you said “No.”, then one big question still remains:

“Why not?”

After all, What they are is equal to you in every way. According to most people, only Whats truly exist. Most people claim that What you are, IS WHO you are, and that there is no difference. But! If like with your clone, they are What you are, then they must be considered “you”, according to that philosophy. And if they’re “you”, and “you” are allowed to sleep with your partner, then what’s the problem with your clone sleeping with them as well? They're "you" after all, right? At least according to your measurements. So what's the problem? According to your measurements, “they” are “you”. You should be allowed to sleep with your partner if you want.

This is because Whats are not the problem. The problem that you're having, is with, a WHO. 

This is the core to manipulation. People want to live in a way that suits them, but in order to do that, they need to know what a “them” is, and they just… very simply… don’t. Con men will play into your ignorance of WHOs as a way hijack this part of your decision making. That’s bad, very, very bad, because this is a vital piece of decision making, if not THE vital piece. It’s the fuel that transforms your thoughts into action.

They hijack this piece by convincing you that if What you are is aligned with something, or if What you have is a good tool for it, then it must be something you’d want. This is essentially a game of “cloning you” within your mind. They create an idea of “you” inside your head, based on your most distinct Whats, a pretend that it’s you in your entirety. (The truth is, it’s simply a mental clone, like the one we discussed before).

As we’ve just proved, What you are isn’t always the right measurement to determine what actually works best for you.

In fact, Whats are just too rigid to be applied to any complex life decision with reliable legitimacy.

And so WHOs are a concept that any great psychic will know, whether by name or not, because it allows them the flexibility to adjust their labels on the fly, WITHOUT lacking the boundaries and facts that an actual "reading" would require.

Psychics use WHOs because, again, Whats are too rigid. For example, if you scheduled a reading, and the person who came in was wearing a plaid shirt, jeans, was covered in dirt, and had disheveled hair, any amateur psychic may think he’s a loser, and so never leave that aspect of the reading, which limits the potential WOW Factor of what he says.

Now consider this, what if that client was actually a horse trainer for the richest man in the state? His appearance still makes sense, but now he’s not a “loser”. In fact, he’s “a rich man who works hard”.

This is why you never measure someone only by their Whats, including yourself. It limits the possibilities for adaptation and change.

If we were measuring people like your clone (using Whats), we'd say that they are simply "A romantic partner", or “a loser”. This can be a great starting point for the person you're reading (including yourself), but it's clearly not the whole thing. WHOs are designed to help you update that confidently - from "a romantic partner" to "a romantic partner that asks stupid questions". From “A loser” to “A very rich loser” or even “A hard-working rich man.”

The ability to lack rigidity (and even some logic) is exactly what makes WHOs so powerful. They allow you a distance between What you already know, and What else could be contained within a person’s concept. It creates room for potential, and thereby creates a measurement, not just for what you know, but also for what you do not know. In readings at least, WHOs are simply a boundary, a flexible “container” to apply these Whats to each other inside of it. We’ll get more into this in a later chapter.

The problem with pretending that WHOs don’t exist, is that when everything is measured by Whats you’re only using half of reality to make your decisions. You're limiting the amount of knowledge you can have in making your decisions. If you only use Whats for your measurements, you’ll end up making crazy and stupid choices in the long run; choices that’ll end up hurting you emotionally, without you even realizing that it’s your fault.

That’s because Whats are fantastic for logical fulfillment, but they SUCK at creating emotional ones. WHOs, on the other hand, are great for emotional fulfillment, but are very hard to apply to our more logical subjects. Emotions can blind you, and so they need to be understood for defense against manipulators, and studied to see through them. That said, logic is still required in order to identify how to shut down your manipulators logically and easily. Both of these are measurements to assess the world by, and both are needed, in unison, to create a worthwhile life for you and those you love.

Using only Whats is like saying "Yes." to your clone asking for sex, without knowing what they’re asking, and while thinking that YOU are the one who asked it, simply because you mismeasured the situation. Your clone is an example of measuring yourself only by What you are, but in terms of emotional satisfaction, that is often an incorrect unit of measurement to use. It’s kinda like trying to use inches in order to measure someone’s weight.

As such, when you’re trying to make good emotional decisions for the longterm success of you emotional well-being, you must try to measure the world using WHOs, which is something very few people know how to do anymore.

Don’t just treat yourself like a clone, or an external tool, when making your emotional decisions. It will limit your ability to see the full picture. If you treat yourself as a clone (as a What) you may not allow yourself to love (or in this case to “make love”) to the people or things you wish to be closest to.

This is something that manipulators will exploit. Because you don't know how your emotions work, or even when they're really at play, many con artists are able to convince you that a choice is logical, when really it's just the one that feels best. So many people are blinded to the role emotions play in their everyday decisions. This book, therefore, is designed to help you spot when you're being logical, and when you're being emotional, by helping you see if you're focusing on the WHOs or the Whats. If you can spot when you’re making an emotional decisions, you’ll have a much easier time looking to see if someone is making yo feel that way on purpose.

But emotionally, basing your life only on Whats won’t end well. So let’s try this again.

WHO are you?

Remember: Your name, your life, or any other things you have, aren’t you. They’re YOURS. You have them. You own them, but they’re not WHO you are. They’re What you have. If I asked you for your name, I’d ask, “What is your name?” not "WHO is your name?". Your occupation? “What’s your occupation?” or “What do you do?”. These are not WHO you are. They are What you have. It’s like your shirt. You own it, and it can symbolize different things about you, but it isn’t you, specifically. It’s not even really a part of you. You have a shirt, but you could take it off. I don’t suggest that you do that right now. You’re busy reading my site, after all, but you could! It’s not imbued to your body. Even if it was, your body is not WHO you are. It’s just YOUR body. It's "yours," not "you." 

 

Your body is a part of What you are, as a concept, and as a reality, but it’s not the same as WHO you are, as a concept that’s almost entirely placed in the unconscious and emotional part of your brain. WHOs are a very subtle unit of measurement in our psyche, but they’re still used by all of us, and the differences between these measurements (WHOs and Whats) are often the main source of our dissatisfaction in life. Since most people know how to use the conscious props in life, I’ve spent many more years mastering how to use the unconscious ones. Magician’s like having unheard of techniques and secrets, because nobody can block your path if they don’t know what path you’re on. Now, I’ve decided to write this site, to help you master those secrets, too.

 

And in keeping with that philosophical goal, from now on, when I speak of “you” I’ll be speaking for the more unconscious, and emotional part of your brain, not the logical and conscious one. 

 

I understand. This goes against everything that we’re taught in the world today, so I don’t expect you to believe it right now, but you wouldn’t be on the third chapter of such a crazy sounding book if you were not in pain. I do not ask that you believe what is written here just yet. I simply wish and hope that you will continue to read, despite the frustration, doubt, and likely the disgust that you feel right now, until you start to feel a more positive connection with what I am saying. The sense of warmth that came to others with my lessons will reach you eventually, and soon after you start to feel that joy, your mind will become much more aware of how true these words are that oppose your society’s mistaken lies and ignorant mistruths. You’ve spent your whole life being taught a lesson, and now I’m asking you to unlearn it. 

 

I’m not an idiot. I know that the greatest successes don’t happen overnight,

 

…And neither will this.

 

So take your time.

 

Some people believe that your actions measure who you are, others your intentions, others your opinions. Some people will evaluate you by your race, your gender, your age, and so on. We call these last people “prejudice,” but we’re all in the same boat. People judge, and they do so without significant evidence. If you can’t tell me WHO you are, don’t ever claim to hate yourself, because you don’t even know what a “yourself” is. You can’t know if you hate something, without first identifying what that something is and how it impacts you, and right now you have no idea WHO you are. To be clear, while I’m saying that you don’t know WHO you are, you may still dislike What you are, AND be justified in feeling that way, but we have many chapters to help you deal with that later on in this book, and to even prove yourself wrong in the next ones.

 

Still, when it comes to what matters most, you don't hate yourself yet, and you cannot possibly comprehend what that means, or what it would mean if you truly did. Maybe you will come to dislike yourself once you’ve met them. I doubt that you will, but the only thing that I can promise you is that you aren’t hating them right now.

 

And, AGAIN, to really drive this home because I am not supernatural, psychic, or a guru:

 

Let me make this clear:

 

I am NOT talking about spirits or your soul. I don't believe in such things. Besides, What spirit you have, or YOUR soul isn't you, they're YOURS. What souls you might have would still be “What you have.” Even if souls did exist, they would not be WHO you are. They would just be another What. No... When I speak of WHOs, I speak of perhaps the most important concept of life, one that seems to have been lost to time, long, long ago.

 

(Don't let anyone guilt trip you into doing something to "save your soul". Only your heart, your beliefs, and your understanding of the world can do that.)